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I don't know you Rhonda; I don't know most posters here, but what I do know is that you deserve all the support that you can get. For cancer doesn't care who or what you are. It can be relentless. But support from others, no matter how little, can have an impact. So here's to you defeating cancer and experiencing many more years here on earth, and more importantly with your friends and family.

For the last few months before her cancer was diagnosed my wife and I had planned to visit Rhonda. We are planning a nation-wide road trip that might last months. Initially we planned on starting in September, getting to Rhonda's old place within a week. But now we are trying to rearrange everything and make our first leg of the trip straight to Rhonda. I am not sure we can pull it off, but if everything falls into place we could leave within 3 weeks, but that is a 50/50 proposition at best.

After a 12 year friendship we have grown close, I can't accept this. In my mind, a person as graceful, intelligent and kind should not get cancer. Rhonda has bravely accepted everything and is putting up a big fight. I am amazed at her calmness and philosophical views about what has happened to her.

We will not get to see her goats, dogs or anything else in her "off the grid" place. But that is ok, we just want to visit her quickly.

She told me she appreciates the posts and Pm's. Even though she may not have the energy to respond, please post or pm her, she will see it and that is part of were her strength to fight this is coming from-knowing this community cares about her, even the people who have never communicated with her at all.

ORIGINAL: CGGrognard

I don't know you Rhonda; I don't know most posters here, but what I do know is that you deserve all the support that you can get. For cancer doesn't care who or what you are. It can be relentless. But support from others, no matter how little, can have an impact. So here's to you defeating cancer and experiencing many more years here on earth, and more importantly with your friends and family.

That was a very kind and correct post. I have seen other people recover from cancer, with the person and doctor saying that part of the healing came from friends. Good job CGGrohnard.

ORIGINAL: rhondabrwn

OK... started for news updates

Brain cancer cells burnt out with radiation therapy. I can think talk read and speak again. I can die sane

Having to use my Fire tablet which slows me down though. Will be in Indianapolis in a week and settled in with my family. Then the cancer fight begins for real.

Staying positive. My Marine biologist daughter is turning herself into an Oncologist as she researches resources and treatments. She is a Supergirl! I would have died without her recognition of my condition from 17,000 miles away.

More later

I really hope you can win this battle [:)] Do not give up, no matter what.

+1

Continuing to send prayers and good wishes your way Rhonda, great to hear about the support you are getting from your family.

ORIGINAL: TulliusDetritus
I really hope you can win this battle [:)] Do not give up, no matter what.

+1. Family can be a massive help, both directly and indirectly in keeping you as stress free as possible in the circumstances.

Hi Rhonda -

I only know you from the posts you make. Your observations on goats made me seriously consider getting some for my ex-horse ranch here in Georgia last spring. I didn't however, thought it would be more work than I could handle.

I was diagnosed with bladder cancer (stage 2) that August and had major surgery to remove my bladder and prostate in October. I just finished my chemotherapy last Wednesday. The way I have to live life has changed over the last several months, but sometimes you can kick cancer in the ass.

I'm not religious, so I honestly can't say that I pray for you, but if my best wishes and hopes have any meaning, then you may rest assured that you have them. I love Arizona, although I was born in Idaho and now live in Georgia - but Arizona will always be the place I call home. Get back to those goats, sweetie.

Sincerely -

Larry

I'll be at home tomorrow meeting with the Hospice people. I've decided to go for the quality of life option. The Oncologists don't seem interested in my case because of the Diabetes which rules me out. The Kidney on the right has a tumor that is 23 centimeters. It doesn't get much worse. I only have basic Medicare so it could probably bankrupt the family. Hospice care in 100% paid for. I stay in my apartment and have nursing help and housekeeping and lots of other assistance. Val has to leave for Guam Friday... she will handle things from Guam. If a good alternative materializes we'll consider. I can switch back and forth in and out of the program if I try treatment. I'll be all set up.

I'm tired so this will be it for this evening. I'll share tonights letter in the Cancer thread,

ORIGINAL: rhondabrwn

I'll be at home tomorrow meeting with the Hospice people. I've decided to go for the quality of life option. The Oncologists don't seem interested in my case because of the Diabetes which rules me out. The Kidney on the right has a tumor that is 23 centimeters. It doesn't get much worse. I only have basic Medicare so it could probably bankrupt the family. Hospice care in 100% paid for. I stay in my apartment and have nursing help and housekeeping and lots of other assistance. Val has to leave for Guam Friday... she will handle things from Guam. If a good alternative materializes we'll consider. I can switch back and forth in and out of the program if I try treatment. I'll be all set up.

I'm tired so this will be it for this evening. I'll share tonights letter in the Cancer thread,

Hi Rondabrwn,

My wife just cared for her mother at our home and the hospice care was very good. Medications were brought to the home plus any other need the nurse would take care of with regular visits. You'll find they take care of the the details so you'll be at ease. Take courage, thinking about you.

Rhonda;

Both of my parents did hospice and that organization is incredible. The people involved are the nicest you could ask for. They are about making you comfortable without worry. I broke my neck in 1984 and have been an incomplete quad for this time. Pain stinks and I know first hand, and they will do all they can to help that part. Hospice impressed my entire family daily. I have been praying for you since I saw this thread and I will continue to do so. Talk to Jesus, the Son of God and He will comfort you. He sure has comforted me many times.

Larry.

ORIGINAL: rhondabrwn

I'll be at home tomorrow meeting with the Hospice people. I've decided to go for the quality of life option. The Oncologists don't seem interested in my case because of the Diabetes which rules me out. The Kidney on the right has a tumor that is 23 centimeters. It doesn't get much worse. I only have basic Medicare so it could probably bankrupt the family. Hospice care in 100% paid for. I stay in my apartment and have nursing help and housekeeping and lots of other assistance. Val has to leave for Guam Friday... she will handle things from Guam. If a good alternative materializes we'll consider. I can switch back and forth in and out of the program if I try treatment. I'll be all set up.

I'm tired so this will be it for this evening. I'll share tonights letter in the Cancer thread,

This is honestly not any attempt to derail this thread, but I find it so upsetting and hard to read that money is even the slightest worry for you at this time. My thoughts are with you and your family. I truly hope that there is a way for you to fight this evil illness that causes so much unhappiness.

Val has to leave for Guam Friday... she will handle things from Guam.

Do you have Skype? My niece took a semester in Argentina, and the family found it an excellent way to keep in touch. (And her Spanish fluency is now amazing.)

Mind you, there is a nasty time difference with Guam.

Fell and broke my right femur and am in Pacific Rehab at Noblesville, Indiana. Should be a couple ofweeks before I go home to the aapartment my kids seem up for me. We are constantly working on the brain cancer to keep me sane and rational.I am good right now but meds are adjusted constantly. We are only working to maintain quality of life and hospice care. No chemo or radiation. My cancer is terminal no idea how long I have. Just glad to have this time with the grandchildren
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I am content will write as I can... promise

Love you all!

Rhondalynn

Fell and broke my right femur and am in Pacific Rehab at Noblesville, Indiana.

Bad news after bad news. You have all our sympathy and support.

Oh. that's not good. You want mobility as much as possible (hope the recovery time from the fall is short). Do you think the drugs could have effected your balance? Were with you.

Thanks for the update Rhonda - sad though it is. You remain in my prayers. Stay strong.

ORIGINAL: rhondabrwn

Fell and broke my right femur and am in Pacific Rehab at Noblesville, Indiana. Should be a couple ofweeks before I go home to the aapartment my kids seem up for me. We are constantly working on the brain cancer to keep me sane and rational.I am good right now but meds are adjusted constantly. We are only working to maintain quality of life and hospice care. No chemo or radiation. My cancer is terminal no idea how long I have. Just glad to have this time with the grandchildren
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I am content will write as I can... promise

Love you all!

Rhondalynn

Terrible news about your femur.
Still encouraging to see that you still have a positive outlook on your situation and that we are spending quality time with your grandchildren. That is someting that will alwasy remain with them, the time spent with them and your family not regretting spending the time with you.
It has finally sunk in that your illnes is terminal, I was hoping that you might be able to get cured of your cancer. I am often lost for words to express my feelings.
Reading your last post made me respond. I enjoyed your comments here in the forums. Always polite and friendly. I was always impressed on the , to me, hard life you wanted with your farm. But I am convinced you would have wanted it no other way.
I know I am rambling on, but I just want you to know that we do follow your posts and are happy from every comment you post here. Be it short or long.

Mathew

Thinking of you.

Stay and enjoy family & friends and may you all be blessed.