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How do you game if you're married?

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 5:23 am
by diesel7013
Okay - I'm married and have 3 kids... so, obviously I don't have alot of time to goof off on the computer and play wargames, 'cause there is always someone wanting me to do something...

Here's what I came up with a few years ago...

I sit on the couch w/ my wife when we get the kids to bed and while she watches TV, I play on my laptop... we sit together, I sorta pay attention to what's on TV, we can discuss it, and I get to game at the same time... that way she's not walking in on me in the office going "Get of that dang compter and quit being such a dork!"[:D][:D]

Anyway - works for me!

RE: How do you game if you're married?

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 6:18 am
by Zap
diesil7013 that is a creative way to keep in touch with the family. Its important, more important than playing wargames. I also do something similar with a desk top. While my wife is watching TV. I,m 10 feet away which allows me to converse with her thogh my back is to her I will swivle around in my desk chair and we talk.

Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 6:13 pm
by AnimalAl
Yeah the home office has its disadvantages. However if in the living room, there is the "noise" factor. I just try to ration the time, no more than one hour gaming per night, and sometimes skipping through weekends. It's tough but priorities have to be on keeping mamasan happy.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 6:38 pm
by DamoclesX
My current gf understands that gamming, and graphics arts are a big part of my life, she found out first hand when my ex(her friend at the time) came down on my one night about how much time I Spent doing it and blah blah I should be doing other things(ie things she wanted, controling freaking women) and basically said I should stop wasting my life lol..

I said ya, your right, I should stop wasting my life... with you!

So that relaitionship ended LOL.

But a few weeks later her friend and I Started hanging out, playing act of war and stuff, and now its all good.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 6:44 pm
by JosephL
Lucky for me I get to play Matrix Games (and some others) and call it "work"...

Ironically I STILL get the "Get off that computer and spend some time with me" speech a lot... Just don't ask me to choose between them ;-)

-Joe

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 7:37 pm
by wodin
I'm married and have put my foot down. I'm with her all day so I spend 1 1/2 hours a night on the PC. Still not enough though. Yes I still have compliants every now and again. However she knew when she met me I spent ALL my free time on games. I try and do it when she is wathcing TV or having a bath.

If the living room was bigger Ive mentioned I'd rather have the PC downstairs so I can be with her whilst I'm on it.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 8:05 pm
by Hertston
Hours. Basically for child minding duties she works 7 to 2, I work 9-30 to 6. I need less sleep anyway, so just go to bed much later than her weekdays - with exceptions for the obvious, anyway [;)]

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 9:06 pm
by chief
As both my wife and I are retired time is not the problem. When I got bored with retirement the lady of the house suggested a hobby, got into computers and war gaming. When I feel a conflict coming up (after 50 years, ya kinda get the drift), I watch Tv with her for a few hours then she's off to bed and I'm back war gaming. Beings she's an avid reader during the day I get playing time. So's that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 10:01 pm
by Procrustes

Buying a good laptop and installing a wireless home network has saved me tons of grief. She has control of the TV remote, I'm in my big chair with the mobile 'puter. (The kids are grown.) She's chatty, though - I need to be ready to save and quit when I feel the sudden chill that means I've given too many "uh huh"s without making eye contact. My other ace is that I'm a bit of an insomniac, and she's not!


RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 10:27 pm
by KG Erwin
Interesting topic. My job is strictly 5-days a week, 8 to 4. My wife is a retail store manager, so her hours vary. Meanwhile, my 8-year-old daughter is pretty independent, so she spends time playing with neighborhood friends, being involved in Girl Scout activities or entertaining herself at home. We are a "wired family", with a PC, two TVs and a Play Station. Everyone pretty much goes their own way, so I have no shortage of play time, or forum time.

The obvious downside is the shortage of opportunities to be together as a family. This is what "married with children" in the 21st century has turned into.

This week, which is spring break, is a prime example. I'm not allowed to take more than one or two vacation days during my job's peak activity time, so the girls drove down to Texas to visit the in-laws while I'm enjoying some time alone. We've done this for several years now.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2005 10:33 pm
by Goblin
A Goblin lays down the law. Thats all it takes. Master of my cavern.[:)]


Goblin

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 4:02 pm
by RBWhite
A good married soldier (wargamer) knows at home he only controlls the ground he's standing (sitting) on.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 7:51 pm
by sprior
I have the same kind of arrangement as deisel - my laptop on the coffee table, me sat on the sofa with Her Indoors, her watching TV and me kinda just so I can talk with her about it. And I take time with the kids before bed to read to them too. (currently reading The Hobbit).

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 8:33 pm
by sol_invictus
I'm afraid I was unable to make things work out and got a divorce 2 1/2 years ago. Me and my ex played Dark Age of Camelot on the home network for several months but that only goes so far. I must say that since I am still single, finding time to game is simply not a problem. Only problem is finding the opportunity for some "face time" with the gentler sex. Why must there always be a problem?[:(]

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 9:44 pm
by wodin
Thinking of buying a laptop for that very reason.


RE: Very carefully

Posted: Wed Mar 30, 2005 10:43 pm
by Cmdrcain
ORIGINAL: sprior

I have the same kind of arrangement as deisel - my laptop on the coffee table, me sat on the sofa with Her Indoors, her watching TV and me kinda just so I can talk with her about it. And I take time with the kids before bed to read to them too. (currently reading The Hobbit).


Good Book Choice

[:)]

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Wed Mar 30, 2005 10:44 pm
by Cmdrcain
I wouldn't know anything about marrued, being an 40+ yr old Confirmed bachelor....


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RE: Very carefully

Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2005 2:48 am
by Rooster
Shared this post with my wife and we had a laugh because, like almost everyone it seems, this is a sore point from time to time. Mostly, we part ways after the kiddie goes to bed. But now one night a week we spend time together.

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2005 6:19 pm
by Riun T
Hey guys,Me and my date are getting a real giggle out of this thread. We are lucky enough to not have alot of sidetrack demands of time or conditions of living arrangement,we occupy the upstairs area of the house and have a female tennant in the suite down stairs,no kids yet. Its really nice to have a house shaped like a four leaf clover all the rooms are close enough to converse in a semi raised voice if the A/C or jaccuzi tub is running,and we have got to personally thank the UgoIgo play style of Steelpanthers,don't know how many times the Op fire sequince of the game,The red line turn she calls it,has bailed me out of countless silly meanial tasks that she often can do herself but as she puts it requires my expert touch and assistance. Useually stuff like hanging plants,or strongarm service.She does the same thing to me in the red line turn and I've learned not to ask til the schedualed comertial breaks. Having a great time working it all out with her thou. RT

RE: Very carefully

Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2005 8:18 pm
by Goblin
I'm telling you guys, take charge, lay down the law, and have her make you a sandwich while you play. Maybe fetch a beer. The Goblin has spoketh.[:'(]



Goblin