I want to play a game for fun only (winning is secondary), but you need to be SERIOUS about having fun

- I'm a beginner myself, having played only a few TOAW games. Yet, I'm an analytical person and will try my best, I have played other strategy games before such as HoI2.
- I play online poker for a living, and it would make absolutely no sense in my world to cheat in a game, when no money is in stake. This means I only play for fun, not credit or ego, and I could certainly enjoy a fierce fight with big mistakes on both sides ending up in a draw rather than a game of perfect skill and luck leading to victory, and I expect you to feel the same way.
- I'm looking for other serious beginners, but also better players who might be willing to include some role play element to explain my noob mistakes. Kim Jong-Il might be the Supreme Commander, but how good a general would he actually be, if you get my point? That is, we can easily find scenarios where a couple of mistakes can be explained by the stupidity of the commanding dude

- I expect reliable and not too slow turn changes, and you will get the same from me, even when I'm busy, if I get temporarily extremely busy I will tell you.
Ok this got too long already, the reason being I don't have too much spare time for a game that gets spoiled for one reason or another so I wanted to explain what I'm looking for
email to mmos, at postikaista, dot net .. Thanks!