ORIGINAL: USS America
ORIGINAL: Terminus
ORIGINAL: stuman
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Got a text from her today. She made it absolutely clear that our friendship is dead, but if I agree to never lay so much as a finger on her again, and never send her texts or emails, then we can commute together as colleagues.
I don't think so. She's acting as if I RAPED her, for Thread's sake![:@]
Guess that's the sort of risk one runs when one hugs women, and those women turn out to be neurotic. Oh well, lesson learned. At least this isn't America, where there'd be a sexual harassment lawsuit incoming...
No offense to my American brothers, but you do live in a somewhat litiguous country...[;)]
Absolutely correct on all points.
Yup. Amen. Consider this the PC shot across your manhood bow. Alright, maybe not the best euphamism, but you know what I'm saying.
Been here before on workplace opposite sex 'friends'. They want the best of both worlds: the attention of an asexual male friendship but they don't want to cut you the slack that you would have for non-workplace opposite sex friends of yours. They want that legal ("HARASSMENT!") backing when things don't go exactly to their liking with you in the workplace-either in their professional relationship or their workplace friendship. You can also be the scapegoat for their own very confused feelings about their own relationships.
Being in a female-dominated profession is particularly challenging. With rare exception, I find it best to treat them as formally as possible. No personal delving or secret sharing of any sort. Your marriage is boring? Is that so? Gee, that's very interesting-not. Can we grab lunch together? Only if there's others in the group and we talk business (separate checks too, please). Do you a favor beyond what's expected of a workplace relationship? Don't think so. Carpool with you and you alone? Foxtrot that noise, sister.
Anyways, good luck, T. Looks like you'll get off relatively easy here-it may not be a bad idea to disentangle yourself as fully as possible-certainly in your personal time as well as your work relationship.
...better off out of it.
