OT:Just because

[adarbrauner]

ORIGINAL: AW1Steve

Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I've had much worse than that. Especially here on this forum. Why just the other day , "somebody" suggested that I be sold for scrap. No buyers though. [:D]

that was an act of love [X(]
[X(]

[AW1Steve]

ORIGINAL: adarbrauner

ORIGINAL: AW1Steve

Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I've had much worse than that. Especially here on this forum. Why just the other day , "somebody" suggested that I be sold for scrap. No buyers though. [:D]

that was an act of love [X(]
[X(]

Which part? The offer to sell, or the desire NOT to buy? [:D]

[BBfanboy]

ORIGINAL: Lecivius

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy
It is like slapping them in the face and saying "You idiot! How could you not know that!".

Actually, the trees around here just shut down for the winter and are not making any more oxygen. We have to hold our breath for a looooooong time!

[BBfanboy]

ORIGINAL: Chickenboy

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy
It is like slapping them in the face and saying "You idiot! How could you not know that!".

And? What's wrong with that? [:D]

Because it actually makes the other person get their back up and stop listening to your ideas, so you end up with no communication happening (like the current politics in some countries). Same advice goes for eschewing pejorative words in favour of neutral ones, and acknowledging that you have heard the other person's argument but have differing thoughts. Dismissing the other guy outright will shut down any hope of having a conversation.

There, you just got the gist of an entire day's seminar! No need to thank me because you probably will not feel the need to anyway! [8D]

[rustysi]

so you end up with no communication happening (like the current politics in some countries)

Hey, hey, hey.... Watch that maple boy!!!!![:D]

[Canoerebel]

Chick-fil-A followed that idea. CFA employees reply "My pleasure," when a customer says, "Thank you." CFA implemented this because it previously it was common for young employees to respond with a courteous, "No problem." But CFA correctly understood that "No problem" actually strikes people as "It was a problem" (or hassle).

[BBfanboy]

ORIGINAL: witpqs

Actually a good post, Fred. [:D]

Actually, it was! He did not use the word "actually" while disagreeing with anyone, he just used it as an adjective to emphasize his not having been there nor had hands on experience with the weapons. Those uses of the word are not pejorative nor insulting.

[rustysi]

But CFA correctly understood that "No problem" actually strikes people as "It was a problem" (or hassle).

Never took that expression to mean that.

[MakeeLearn]

"No problem"

[alaviner]

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy

ORIGINAL: witpqs

Actually a good post, Fred. [:D]

Actually, it was! He did not use the word "actually" while disagreeing with anyone, he just used it as an adjective to emphasize his not having been there nor had hands on experience with the weapons. Those uses of the word are not pejorative nor insulting.

Actually, "neither" would be a better word than the underlined "not"[8D] [:D][8D]

[Chickenboy]

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy

ORIGINAL: Chickenboy

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy
It is like slapping them in the face and saying "You idiot! How could you not know that!".

And? What's wrong with that? [:D]

Because it actually makes the other person get their back up and stop listening to your ideas, so you end up with no communication happening (like the current politics in some countries). Same advice goes for eschewing pejorative words in favour of neutral ones, and acknowledging that you have heard the other person's argument but have differing thoughts. Dismissing the other guy outright will shut down any hope of having a conversation.

There, you just got the gist of an entire day's seminar! No need to thank me because you probably will not feel the need to anyway! [8D]

I agree. About the felt need to thank you. [;)]

I have heard your argument but have differing thoughts.

[Chickenboy]

ORIGINAL: Canoerebel

Chick-fil-A followed that idea. CFA employees reply "My pleasure," when a customer says, "Thank you." CFA implemented this because it previously it was common for young employees to respond with a courteous, "No problem." But CFA correctly understood that "No problem" actually strikes people as "It was a problem" (or hassle).

If one wanted parsimony and picayune dissection of verbatim language throughout the world, one can come up with myriad examples of where the words spoken are different than the meaning conveyed. A "you're welcome" in the Spanish speaking world is "de nada"-"it was nothing". This is not considered informal or brusque. Remarkably similar to the "no problem" non-issue with today's youth. While it is ALWAYS acceptable to say "you're welcome", it's also best to not look for linguistic slights where none was intended.

Hence the false umbrage about "actually" amongst those being overly sensitive. I'm not aware of anyone who interprets the use of that adverb in a sentence as a pejorative insult or slight. You show me non-inflammatory common parlance that inflames a select audience of the easily offended and I'll show you an opportunity for a well-paying day-long conference for the politically correct linguist market.

[adarbrauner]

What's Chick fil A ?
(ok, google it...)

[Chickenboy]

ORIGINAL: rustysi

But CFA correctly understood that "No problem" actually strikes people as "It was a problem" (or hassle).

Never took that expression to mean that.

Me neither. Beware the corporate-speak that turns customers into relationship clientele, waitresses into experience guides and employees into service experts.

[Chickenboy]

ORIGINAL: adarbrauner

What's Chick fil A ?
(ok, google it...)

Actually...[:D]...it's the finest purveyor of all edible things chicken-themed. Their nuggets are the stuff of legend.

[Leandros]

ORIGINAL: BBfanboy

Actually, it was! He did not use the word "actually" while disagreeing with anyone, he just used it as an adjective to emphasize his not having been there nor had hands on experience with the weapons. Those uses of the word are not pejorative nor insulting.

Don't overdo it now....what's "pejorative".....[&:].....?

Fred

[Zorch]

I'd like to interrupt this mutual admiration society for a healthy dose of reality...but I'm having way too much fun.

[anarchyintheuk]

That actually settles where I'm eating tonight.

[warspite1]

ORIGINAL: Zorch

I'd like to interrupt this mutual admiration society for a healthy dose of reality...but I'm having way too much fun.

warspite1

Don't let Mrs Zorch hear you say that......

[Zorch]

ORIGINAL: warspite1

ORIGINAL: Zorch

I'd like to interrupt this mutual admiration society for a healthy dose of reality...but I'm having way too much fun.

warspite1

Don't let Mrs Zorch hear you say that......

No problem - There is no longer a Mrs Zorch.[;)]