Beethoven1 wrote: Sat May 28, 2022 10:49 am
tyronec wrote: Sat May 28, 2022 5:03 am
Hi,
I am not going to continue with the game, am clear about that now.
I appreciate that you are offering to adapt what you write. So here are a couple of specif things:
I am not upset, you have made that up. I didn't like what you wrote on the forum but I was not upset because of it. However it made me question if I wanted to play a game against someone who was engaging in this kind of aggressive banter.
I am very surprised by all this, and I hope that you might still reconsider, because I think we could have a fun game and could help the devs to better understand and potentially improve game balance together.
With respect, I think you are totally misreading this situation! I think this is a situation where miscommunication is occurring due to the fact that we are typing messages purely with text (as can sometimes happen over the internet), which would not occur if we were speaking verbally and could hear each other's tone of voice, or even more so if we were speaking in person and could see all the additional social cues that are missing from purely text conversation.
If you'd like and think it might help, I would offer to discuss this over voice chat using discord, I suspect it might make this clearer due to the availability of better social queues with instantaneous discussion than with these clunky forum messages.
I have never had any similar sorts of issues that I can think of in my previous games.
From what I can tell, the word "upset" in particular seems to be an object of miscommunication. You say:
I am not upset, you have made that up. I didn't like what you wrote on the forum but I was not upset because of it.
So you are saying that you "disliked" what I wrote on the forum, but that you are not "upset," drawing a subtle distinction that seems to be important to you between those two words.
This seems to be a reference to where I said at the end of my previous message that:
Anyway, I have no more desire to debate this than you do (again, I posted this extra detail not to debate but to hopefully show you that my intentions are good), but if you let me know about what are the specific things that upset you which I wasn't sure if you were referring specifically to or not, that should hopefully help me ensure that I don't repeat anything else like it.
To reiterate and sum up, I apologize for any offense I may have caused, and I will be happy to avoid repeating it in the future - the more specifically I know what you didn't like, the better of a job I can do to fix the issue.
In the above quote, I bolded 2 parts for emphasis which, to me, are effectively synonyms, saying the same basic thing in my subjective interpretation.
In my understanding of ordinary English language, it means the same thing to refer to "something that someone doesn't dislike" and to refer to "something that upsets someone." If one doesn't like something, then one is unhappy about it, that is to say one is upset.
Similarly, at the very beginning of my previous message, I said:
Oh, I am sorry!
I was not expecting that you would dislike it.
(similar emphasis added with bold)
Above all since I started off referring to the word "dislike" rather than "upset," this should make clear that when I was talking about the stuff I wrote that you were unsatisfied with, I was not in any way intending to emphasize anything involving the word "upset."
Perhaps in your cultural background/upbringing/context/whatever, there was some sort of clear distinction drawn between the meaning of saying e.g. "something that someone doesn't dislike" or saying "something that upsets someone," and if so I apologize for missing that distinction, but I was not aware of it when I wrote this. In my cultural background/upbringing/context/whatever, these are the sorts of things that one could say interchangeably, quickly without thinking about it, and I was not intending anything more by it one way or another.
Beyond than that, when I was learning how to write in my high school English classes, my teachers taught me (rightly or wrongly) that one of the keys to good writing is to vary your sentence structure and to say things with slightly different phrasing, rather than to repeat the exact same thing in the exact same way. So for that reason, when writing, I will naturally tend to try to rephrase something that I have already said rather than to repeat it literally. This is why at the end of my message, I said "
the specific things that upset you" whereas at the very beginning of the message referred instead to the things I wrote which you say that you "
disliked."
The TB control. I don't know if it favors Axis or Soviets, I think it favors Axis but am not sure. There are two reasons why I don't want to play with it; one is that it opens up the game to features have not been fully tested or thought through that potentially unbalance it. The second is that it requires a lot of extra admin. We discussed that before starting.
That is absolutely fine, I understand the reasons for playing with TBs locked, and while I would have preferred playing with them unlocked for purely QOL reasons (e.g. it is annoying to not be able to disband the Soviet corps HQs that disband on turn 4 a few turns earlier simply to remove clutter), I was fine with playing with them locked, which was why I agreed to play with them locked when you made clear that was what you wanted.
In fact, I don't merely
understand the reasons,
but actually in my first grand campaign game which I played with Bread, I wanted to play with theater boxes locked for the essentially the same reasons, because I thought it might unbalance the game and give players the wrong incentives!!!
I arranged my first game over discord with him, and said (way back at the very start of my message history with him on April 17, 2021):
And I agreed with the same issue you have mentioned about TBs being unlocked causing extra and unnecessary micromanagement:
I started my second game with him with theater boxes unlocked because that was what he wanted (June 8, 2021):
The main problem he had with the TBs being locked as Germany was with the forced transfers of units off of the map which were in a critical part of the map, and they suddenly disappeared without him being able to move in replacements:
So far from disagreeing with you about TBs, I actually agree with you. The only thing I like about having TBs unlocked are the QOL benefits, which is a great benefit, but I am (and have been since my first game with Bread) in agreement with you about the extra micromanagement and the fact that it may disrupt balance since the game wasn't tested with that setting.
I am sure Bread would be happy to verify this if you want to ask him.
It is not correct that I only play with TB locked however you wanted to make a point so you made that up.
Tyrone
I was not trying to make a point and certainly not intending to make anything up, I simply thought in good faith that your previous games had been played with TBs locked, from having read through your previous AARs and also remembering having read previous posts you made on the forum about TBs, where I remembered you having made the same points about TBs.
1) e.g. your game with ToxicThug11 (aka Kulik/todger) has TBs locked
2) Bitburger game - " TB control is OFF."
https://www.matrixgames.com/forums/view ... 2&t=382932
3) Rosencrantus game - I actually see now it doesn't seem to say if TBs are locked. I had thought, assumed, or misremembered that they were, so I may have been wrong in thinking that they were locked, and am happy to admit it.
4) MSAG game - " TB control OFF (I think TB control is of more benefit to Axis than the Soviets)."
https://www.matrixgames.com/forums/view ... 2&t=378782
5) K62 game - " No TB control (which I think is of more benefit to Axis than the Soviets."
https://www.matrixgames.com/forums/view ... 3&t=376261
I do see now at least one game where you played with TB control on, your STB game against Rosencrantus, " Rosencrantus wanted to play with TB Control on which I have agreed to with the condition that he lets me know what transfers he is doing. I will not be using it. This is a small advantage to Axis but I think not too significant in this scenario (whereas in '41 it would have more impact)."
https://www.matrixgames.com/forums/view ... 2&t=372028
Mentally I had been thinking of 1941 GC games you had played, so I may have not remembered this game for that reason, I don't know.
I know there are also some older games, I could look through the AARs from all those to attempt to check, but the point is my off-hand memory was that they were with TBs off, and I was merely trying to express my best off-hand recollection, which was that I thought you had played all your previous games (at any rate, ones with AARs) with TBs locked.
So I was merely
trying to make a factual statement. Like all other humans, I am certainly fallible and can misremember or misinterpret things. However, I have no problem with admitting when I am wrong if I am wrong, and correcting it.
Of course, many other factors were also different across all these games regardless of TB settings (played with different patches, etc), and the complexity is what makes it difficult to assess and understand the balance of this complex game. I was never in any way meaning to imply that theater box rules and the like were determination of outcomes in any particular game, and never said anything to suggest that. At most, they are just one little factor among many.
Anyway, to reiterate, I hope that you might reconsider and be willing to give me a second chance and continue the game. I was very much looking forward to playing with you, because I have read all of your AARs and learned a lot from them ever since the game was released. I think it is pretty clear that you are either the best, or one of the best players of the game. You are certainly better than me, if for no other reason than you can play Germany - I have tried o play Germany in single player, but have never managed to get far to my satisfaction. I'd like to eventually also be able to play Germany, but Soviets are easier for me at this stage because Germany requires so much finesse which I haven't been able to manage to my satisfaction, which is why I play Soviets. So, I was very much looking forward to the challenge of playing with you and seeing if I could survive.
If you would like, I would also be willing to change how I have been doing the AAR more broadly to accommodate your concerns.
My assumption, at the start, was it would probably be like the AAR for your game with ToxictThug11/todger/Kulik (
https://www.matrixgames.com/forums/view ... 2&t=383893) where he started off posting and then you posted some from your perspective. Since you have so many other AARs, I just assumed you would probably want to do that (or alternatively start your own AAR thread), and didn't particularly think it was necessary to mention.
However, if you prefer, I would be willing to do any of these arrangements, any of which could make 100% sure that nothing would appear in the AAR that you don't want:
A) PM all my AAR posts to you, and then you post them rather than me, after giving you the chance to edit and correct anything that you don't want.
B) PM all my AAR posts to you, and after you have a chance to respond with any edits/corrections you think are necessary, then I would post them. This is the same as A, just a bit more time consuming with more time lag.
C) You write an AAR how you normally write your AARs, and I don't write any AAR directly, but just post screenshots with no text from my perspective to complement your AAR. I could also periodically (but not every turn, maybe once every 10 turns or so) write up a brief general summary of the Soviet perspective of the situation, which I would then PM to you to look over and edit if necessary. Then you could either post my summary of the Soviet perspective yourself, or else I can post it after you have OK'd it.
If you are willing to give me any chance at all, I would suggest maybe let each of us do 1 single additional turn, and we can do a trial run of how the AAR would work. I would take screenshots and write my perspective on the turn with a purely serious and totally in a purely serious tone totally devoid of anything even remotely resembling "aggressive banter," as you put it. Then you could evaluate it, and if you are sufficiently satisfied that there is no aggressive banter or anything of the sort, then we could continue the game. Or if even after that, you still think I am engaging in any sort of aggressive banter, then you could leave it there at that point.
As a gesture of good faith, I will now edit the 2 posts I previously made in the AAR to remove anything remotely resembling aggressive banter.