Well, I asked him for his proof and here it is....
|Remember when I said that paranoid personalities would see coincidences etc as proof....
Here's his reply and my response.... BTW I'm doing this openly since I don't want to get into a situation where he can edit any PMs I send and twist them. Also I believe that I'm perfectly happy having my responses viewed by all and sundry.
My PM when he said I was reading PH's AAR can best be paraphrased as ...
"Where's your proof?" It was two lines long but I don't save sent PMs so I can't cut and past it here.
Here's the "proof" in the reply....
Why are you assuming I'm going to bother arguing with someone I consider dishonest? On the off-chance that it will prevent stink in the open and shutdown of the game PH wishes to continue for some reason...
RE: ...the destroyer of worlds. - An Armageddon AAR (no... - 12/2/2010 6:15:17 PM (PH heavily hints at changing Allied strategic plans)
When Birdies tweet in one's ear.... - 12/2/2010 8:21:14 PM (you change the format of your AAR to hide your reaction)
Screenshots saved.
Gotta love the contention in the second line that he isn't going public in order to "save" the game as PH wants to continue. Wow!!! After what he did? WOW!!!
So his "proof" that I was cheating was my post publicly announcing that I had concerns about FOW breaches after someone contacted me with concerns that some posts in PH's AAR might give a bit too much away. I publicly posted this information, announced a change in my AAR style to prevent this being an issue in future and asked people to refrain from further leading questions.
The AAR then continued on for another 6 weeks without incident until a few days after I changed this policy and again posted info about future plans ( the whole Korean reinforcement thing ) on 17th January. Very shortly after that this person posted my reinforcement plan to PH.
Gees, guys can someone tell me when the first time PH confirmed his current invasion targets in his AAR? DON'T confirm whether or not it is Korea. Right now I think it must either be Korea or Kyushu. The leaks make me think Korea but I am still concerned about Kyushu.
What I am interested in though is the timeline....
1. PH posted a change in plans ( I'm going on "Little Rat's" timing here... Is he telling the truth about this or is this made up?
2. I was told that someone had concerns about goings on in PH's AAR and in my very next post publicly asked people to be careful and said I would not give future plans away.
3. 6 weeks later I felt safe enough with the AAR again that I posted my future plans ( prepping to defend Korea with units evacuated from China by sea and air ).
4. Several days later the "Little Rat" leaked this info to PH.
That is how I see the timeline playing out but, obviously, I only know points 2, 3 and 4. I can only take "Little Rats" word for point 1 and, obviously, I don't consider him to be a very trustworthy source.
Anyways, it seems that the fact that I heard about concerns someone had about posts with excess info/food for thought causing PH to change plans and posted asking for that to stop was enough to convince this person that I must be cheating. I would be willing to bet he was the one making the excess info posts to PH. Gees.
Well, after hearing back from him I truly am :
a) reminded of one of my favourite psychiatric sayings, "We are all at the mercy of the least balanced person we know."
and
b) determined not to let him destroy this game.
I've sat here for about ten minutes thinking about this next part of the message. I'm annoyed that he would destroy the game on such flimsy evidence. I'm annoyed he would breach FOW without ever even contacting me for an explanation ( which is simple, someone contacted me with concerns and I posted that their message made me concerned about FOW breaches. Simple. ). I was VERY upset with him about this for several days and haven't read another AAR for days because I was so upset about the whole thing. It just removed the fun.
But, as I sit here I am reminded of my own patients who often make terrible mistakes in their choices and who often interpret the world around them very incorrectly and burn bridges and cause harm. I think he has no choice but to see the world as his personality colours it. I think that it is regrettable that, in this instance, this prism of paranoia has pretty much ruined this game and definitely ruined this AAR. When society looks at my patients and refuses to give them a second chance I find it regrettable because I know that when the layer of illness is removed most of them are quite decent people. I have been thinking about how I sometimes would feel others are being unfair to my patients and I've been thinking if launching into a diatribe about this individual wouldn't be doing unto him just what I bemoan others doing to my patients.
I also believe we need to give people a second chance. Normally that requires an apology but sometimes when people can't reach a place to understand the error of their views I believe we need to simply move on, make allowances and try to remember that they are as much victims as we are.
So, at one point in this post I named him because I was upset. I've removed his name now. Instead I'll just say ( as I know he will read this ) that I forgive him and understand that he acted from a true conviction that I was cheating. Obviously after many years of AARing here I think that an allegation of cheating should require more than the timing of two posts in two different AARs but I understand that to his mind such things are utter proof of conspiracy etc.
Anyways, I wish you well, I hope you can reflect on your actions and the strength of the proof you saw and whether or not your actions were fully justified. I won't PM you again to discuss this. I believe you can best reflect on this yourself.
As to the AAR...
I don't believe a private AAR serves any purpose anymore. I'm going to start a public AAR which PH is free to join and in which all are welcome to comment. Hopefully by having an open, joint AAR PH and I can recapture some of the fun of the game and everyone can feel free to comment without worrying about FOW.
As to the individual who made those PMs to PH. You are welcome to participate also. I would just ask that you no longer PM my opponent with information contained within this thread but you are free to participate in a new open joint AAR